Deal With It !!!

How you deal with stuff can say a lot about you. Every day, each of us wrestles with difficult situations that are beyond our control. Quick example. How do you deal with bad drivers during the commute?

Perhaps Google can help you with that. Everyday, thousands of people ask Google how to deal with stuff. I decided to go see what some common ones were.

(note: the following is based on personal research and represents some of the most common searches for this topic)

  • How to deal with an angry customer? Personally, I do not believe in the old “the customer is always right”. Customers can be real PITAs.
  • How to deal with a {zodiac sign} man? More often the search is for the man, not the woman? WHAT?
  • How to deal with an emotional man? Again, the search for the male version occurs more often than the female version.
  • How to deal with an evil boss? There were 17 different versions of this in my list of 260. Wow!
  • How to deal with an evil mother-in-law? Are we surprised?
  • How to deal with a girlfriend? I feel for you man.
  • How to deal with a used car salesman? The other professions in the list were teacher and insurance claims adjuster. (WHAT. No lawyer?)
  • How to deal with a verbally abusive father? (or husband or wife) But version with mother was not in the most common list. That should make us feel safe. (YET, toxic mother was on this list)
  • How to deal with a teenager? Good luck with that one!
  • How to deal with a teacher that doesn’t like you? This one surprised me. Is this suggesting that the students want to be on good terms with their teacher?
  • How to deal with a stuck zipper? Frustrating, eh?

In the 260 searches I studied, the following words appeared the most.

  • boss – 17
  • child – 17
  • person – 11
  • man – 10
  • husband – 9
  • friend – 9
  • wife – 7
  • narcissistic – 6

What is your most common “How to deal with …” issue? Leave a comment for Grandpa Richard

Can a Dog and a Cat Mate?

Those of you who use Google have probably noticed that when you start typing a search, Google thinks ahead and suggests what you might want to search for. Google’s suggestions are based partly on your past searches, and partly on popular searches that everyone else makes. Have you ever stopped to notice what those popular searches are? I have.

Seeing what other people search for can be quite entertaining. It can also be eye opening, and something you can learn from. I usually go with entertaining.

Let’s look at an example.

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First item that pops up is “can a dog and a cat breed”. I suppose that is a legitimate question for someone who slept through biology class. The scary thing is that when you examine the top 10 “can a dog a…” items (Google usually only shows human searchers the top 4, but a computer program can easily see 10) it seems lots of people ask if a dog and a human can mate. Yuck!

Moving on, what are some other very popular “can a dog” questions?

  • Can a dog be allergic to a cat
  • Can a dog die from eating weed
  • Can a dog eat quinoa (health conscious owners here)
    (actually, there are lots of questions about what a dog can eat or drink, which makes me feel good that people care about their pets)
  • Can a dog have/take (various human medications, including xanax, tums, tramadol, aleve, etc)
  • Can a dog kill (various other animals and snakes, etc)
  • Can a dog laugh
  • Can a dog live (without various body parts, including tongue, teeth, and spleen!)
  • Can a dog meow (in other words, speak cat)
  • A whole bunch of kind animal lovers want to know if a dog can nurse abandoned kittens
  • Can a dog pass a (various items, including socks)
  • Can a dog run for president (LOL in 2016)
  • Can a dog use a litter box (wouldn’t that be great)

Keep in mind, the above (partial) list is not just what a few people search for. It probably takes 10s of thousands of people (or more) doing the search for it to get on the top 10 list.

The list for “can a cat …” is almost identical, including the run for president. Several unique ones I saw for cats are …

  • Can a cat’s voice box be removed (now I am surprised people did not ask that more for dogs, with their incessant barking)
  • Can a cat be trained (LOL – good luck on that)

Do you have any burning “can a dog …” (or cat) questions? Leave a comment for Grandpa Richard.

There Must Be An Election Coming

The distractions are starting.

Just before an election, the political party in power starts creating distractions. These are created to take us away from issues that are important, and which the ruling party is struggling with.

The Harper Conservatives have been really pushing the terrorism and crime issues. What I see is a downward trend in violent crimes, and really, what are the chances of us being killed by a terrorist. As well, a majority of violent crimes involve people who know each other.

The other item I just noticed is Harper getting ready to announce that he will work at abolishing the Senate. Good ploy by Steven, but do NOT fall for the distraction. The Senate can wait until after Oct 19. Let’s deal with more important issues, like jobs and health and education.

Do NOT let the Conservatives do a “Wag the Dog” on you. (if you do not understand that reference, google it; it was a movie; read the plot)

Ask the candidates in your area how they are planning to deal with the day to day issues that affect all Canadians.

And that is what Grandpa Richard Speaks today.

wag-dog

Preconceived Notions

I am going through an interesting experience in my life these days. I am facing off against some preconceived notions that I have. Preconceived thoughts about people and about relationships. I find it quite interesting because I seem to be able to look at myself from outside myself and actually chuckle a bit at my predicament.

One thing that I came to realize a few years ago is that I do not handle change well. I used to think I was terrific in that part of my life, but then some experiences taught me that I like going in a straight line. The changes that required a turn were hard on me, as momentum was a very strong force in my life.

Then there was the issue of how I receive thoughts from others. If someone came to me and suggested I should do something differently, how did I receive that. I didn’t always listen right away, but I was willing to accept it without trying to defend myself or argue, and would give myself several days to let it sink in.

This situation I find myself in right now is pitting me against some preconceived notions that I have. If I ignore the whole thing, it will go away and I will keep going in the same straight-line. If I accept a new way of thinking about a facet of life, it may require a big change in my life, a positive one at that, but it is still scary.

How do you respond to change? How do you respond to advice that others give you about your life? Do you have preconceived notions about life that get challenged?

And that is what Grandpa Richard Speaks today.

Dental Care Is Not Cheap

I read in the newspaper that there is a push to have a national pharmacare system. The article told me that Canada is the only country that has a national healthcare system, and yet does not have a national pharmacare system to match. Furthermore, one in 10 people in Canada cannot afford their prescription drugs. My question would be “How many people in Canada cannot afford their dental care?”. My guess would be it is more than one in 10.

I believe there are programs that help lower income families with dental care for their children. Is there something like that for adults? I also believe that if you are on welfare you can qualify for some dental help. Lower income people who work get nothing. When you’re making only 11 bucks an hour, or whatever the minimums are in Canada today, it’s pretty hard to pay for even a dental checkup, let alone cavity work.

I will be honest with my readers. It is hard for me to afford prescriptions or dental work. Whether there are systems to help me once I turn 65 I do not know. I am pretty sure there is help with prescriptions, but not so sure about the dental side. My memory tells me that even a simple trip to the dentist exceeds $200 and as soon as you need cavities filled … well.

Perhaps we need to reconsider what is more important to lower income Canadians. A pharmacare system or dental care system.

And that is what Grandpa Richard Speaks today.

pharmacare vs dental care

What is a True Hiker?

I have become a big fan of hiking in the last several years. There are probably two main reasons. Number one is a desire to get more regular exercise. Number two is the proximity of over 100 waterfalls here in the Hamilton Ontario area.

What does it mean to be a true hiker?

A true hiker is healthy. At least healthier than they would be without their activity. Walking is considered one of the best ways to keep your body active. It gets you out into fresh air, since most hiking occurs in more natural areas, and the exposure to sunshine gives the vitamin D that many of us are deficient in.

A true hiker is inspired. If you hike regularly you can’t help but be inspired by what you see in the nature that surrounds you. You start to notice things like beautifully constructed spiders webs, and the intricate design of flowers.

A true hiker is kind. Not only are we inspired by nature, but the more a person is in nature and surrounded by it, the gentler our spirit becomes. We become a kinder person.

A true hiker is engaged. Hikers become more environmentally aware and engaged. They start to care more about our natural surroundings and want to do something to help keep them that way.

A true hiker is respectful. We go into nature and when we are done our hike, we leave only footprints and take only memories.

Become a true hiker today. Your body, soul, and spirit will be the better for it.

p.s. Do you have any additional words that describer a true hiker?

And that is what Grandpa Richard Speaks today.

a true hiker is

The Canadian Senate

We have read about it. We have heard about it. Do we really need Grandpa Richard to tell us more?

My initial thought when this issue started to get big is that we should get rid of the Senate. However, when I looked into the issue deeper, I realized that it had its role and when working well it was needed. It provides for sober second thought on the bills that Parliament passes. Quality senators spend quality time looking at parliamentary bills and even researching them. In some cases the bills are sent back to Parliament for fine-tuning.

The spending scandal that has directed has caused many of us to say get rid of it. I am now thinking that we should fix it. I see two problems.

The first is that senators are appointed. Not only that, they are appointed to a particular side of the Senate as either liberals or conservatives. I would prefer to see a neutral Senate. Not one that is along party lines. We should consider, in fact reconsider, electing senators. And instead of giving them their jobs for life they should have them for a specific period of time. Perhaps five years.

The second point I would make is that the spending scandal has suggested that moral compasses do not always work. Thus, we should tighten up the rules. And perhaps even in Parliament as well. There was the one liberal member of Parliament who voluntarily posted expenses for all her constituents to be able to see. She was chastised by her party’s leadership. Probably blackballed.

Our Prime Minister was quoted as saying that the Senate governs itself and thus he could not get involved. He is the one that has been appointing lots of senators lately. He is involved.

And that is what Grandpa Richard Speaks today.